The kallah is a sister of a good friend of mine. She is 29. I happened to bump into a chavrusa of my old chavrusa, the chosson. He is 37. When talking to my friend, the idea popped into my head.
I only started suggesting shidduchim after 10K Batay Yisroel inspired me.
Just because you haven’t redt a shidduch before doesn’t mean you can’t. Every shadchan started somewhere.
I’ve made many shidduch suggestions, but this was my first successful one, and the couple’s chasuna was just last week.
I learned two valuable lessons from this experience:
- Don’t underestimate your ideas or hesitate to share them. The worst that can happen is you get a “no.” Making a good-faith suggestion is a way to show someone you are still thinking of them. Every shadchan starts somewhere, and this was my start.
- You never know the ripple effect of your efforts. Even if a suggestion doesn’t lead to a “yes” or engagement, unexpected outcomes can arise. Beyond my gratitude for being part of this marriage, this suggestion brought an additional blessing: once the chosson and kallah had been dating for a while, they decided to set up two friends, who just got engaged as well. You can never know the fruits your thoughts and efforts can bear